Finding Clarity In The Haze Of The Newborn Bubble: Tips For New Moms

Nothing can really prepare you for the moment you become a mom. You can read endless articles and listen to other people’s stories for hours, but every experience is unique. One thing that does affect every new parent is the haze of the newborn bubble. Those first precious few weeks usually fly by in a blur of excitement, joy and anticipation teamed with anxiety, fear and tiredness. The good news is that there are steps you can take to try to find clarity and make the most of those special days with your new arrival. In this guide, we’ll share some helpful tips for new moms.

Practical coping strategies: The importance of preparation

It’s impossible to be fully prepared for life with a newborn, but being organized can be hugely beneficial. In the weeks leading up to your due date, make sure you have everything you need in your hospital bag, get your bedroom ready for a new member of the family and try to rest. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself or feel that you have to buy everything mentioned in guides and lists. Just focus on the essentials you’ll need for the first couple of weeks. Don’t panic if you haven’t quite finished the nursery or bought items like toys and books yet. Your newborn will only need a few things to start with, such as diapers, wipes, bottles and plenty of vests, sleepsuits and babygrows. Put your car seat in the car ready for the journey to the hospital, and stock up on comfortable underwear, nightwear and nursing bras and breast pads if you plan to breastfeed.

Feeding your baby

There’s a huge amount of information online about breastfeeding. If you have friends or relatives with babies, you’ve probably heard lots of stories too. Listening to people talk about feeding can provoke a range of emotions. You may be looking forward to building that special bond and nurturing your baby, but you might also be anxious or worried. Try to relax as much as possible and don’t compare yourself to other people. Go with what feels right for you. Don’t hesitate to seek advice if you have difficulties, or you’re concerned about how to increase milk production or how to tell if your baby is getting enough milk or growing fast enough. As a general rule, if your newborn is sleeping well, doing lots of wet diapers and seems content after feeding, this means they’re well-nourished.

Putting yourself and your baby first

It’s natural for a new arrival to attract a lot of attention. Many people love to welcome friends and family members when they bring a new baby home but put yourself and your baby first. If you feel overwhelmed, or you’re tired and you need a break from visitors, don’t be afraid to ask politely if people can stay away for a day or so. It’s perfectly normal to want to find your feet and enjoy some alone time with your new bundle. Equally, don’t hesitate to reach out to loved ones if you do need help or you’d love some adult company. If people offer to help, accept their kindness. Raising a baby is hard work and it can often feel like you’re spinning too many plates if you don’t have support.

There’s nothing quite like the first few days and weeks of being a mom. The newborn phase is tiring and it can be an emotional rollercoaster, but there are ways to find clarity. Prepare as much as possible in advance, try to rest and make sure you’ve got the essentials ready. Research feeding and ask for advice, but don’t feel pressured or panic if things don’t slot into place straight away. It can take time for both you and your baby to get used to feeding. Reach out and ask for help and set boundaries when it comes to visiting and going out of the house. Move at your own pace.